Ok ladies so I'll try and make this some what short. So me and my husband have been married going on two years, he has his daughter from a previous relationship. I have my daughter from a previous relationship. And we have one together (6 months).

So my husband has always had a not so good relationship with his ex/daughters mom. Their relationship ended years ago on not so good terms, he ended moving back home to his home state away from her, she actually followed him ended up having their daughter here in his home state then after baby was born she took off while he was at work with the baby back to her home state. It was a very messy break up with loads of fighting and hurtful events. (I could name it all but I'd go on all day) lol so after all that she stayed in her home state and he stayed here in TX. She would allow him to have her (his daughter) for up to 6 months at a time as she was growing up. Now let's fast forward some....

Back in 2015 when me and him first moved in together and were in a serious relationship and she found out, she cut off all contact with him and his daughter. He would try and text her or call about his daughter it would turn into a constant fight. She then also never let his daughter come back to TX. We tried to help and send clothes, birthday gifts, offer money, we tried and it was constantly denied by her. Saying HER daughter didn't need anything.

Fast forward again.... Dec of 16 I reached out to her myself. I was then pregnant with our daughter. I let her know we wanted something to do with her daughter, that my husband not being able to have a relationship with his own daughter has really been hard on him, that she was about to have a sister and we wanted them to know each other and have a relationship. We wanted to help with whatever. Even though she denied money previously my husband actually went and put child support on himself.

Let me just tell ya, this hasn't been easy I feel like it's a constant fight with her over everything. There's absolutely no winning with her. So she started with saying her daughter would never come here to Texas unless a judge forced her. Well then a month later she decided she could go to Texas. So we've had her for the summer. Finally after 2 years of fighting with her my husband finally got to see his daughter. But she has made our lives a living hell in the process. She's threatened to come and pick her up earlier over 5 times, she went as far as talking to their daughter on the phone and telling her she was coming to get her because she wasn't safe. Meanwhile his daughter was begging and pleading with her "not to and how she just wanted more time with her daddy" crying hysterically. Then after that she decided she wasn't coming early and everything was fine. 🤷🏼‍♀️ and that all started from a small argument she had the prior days with my husband because my husband stated a concern of her maybe having ADHD and wanting to get her checked out for that. Yeah she flipped over that.

I could go on and on ladies lol but this post is already way longer than I intended. How do I handle this?! I love and care about my step daughter. I would like to have a good relationship with her mom. At least be civil and share updates. But I'm not going to bow down before her and put up with every crazy mood swing she throws my way. I think she still holds on to a lot of hurt and anger towards my husband about them not working out. She constantly throws it in his face that "he left" "he's the one not there" and blah blah. What would you ladies do?