Disrespect.

In the heat of an argument my husband said "f*ck you" to me.

We have been married for five years and this year we have been arguing more than ever before. It's starting to really concern me. We became parents last year and also live far away from close family because of the military. I have been trying to adjust to this new life of being a mom, handle chores around the house and try to cook while also growing our second child. Some days are great but others are just overwhelming.

Since I have become pregnant again I have been extremely tired and nauseous especially this past week. We were folding laundry today and he basically asked me why I haven't done laundry in awhile and then proceeds to tell me that he comes home after working and does everything. Laundry, dishes and cleaning up. He is a big help but he definitely does not do everything. I do a fair share between raising and taking care of my very active toddler (while also trying to relax and not overexert myself during this pregnancy). Of course everything takes like ten times longer when you have a kid too.

This past week I will admit that the laundry didn't get done but I am so tired of him saying he does everything. We have been trying to spend time together as a family but he works a lot and when he comes home he basically just plays video games or watches tv and doesn't really keep en eye on our daughter. So I really never get a break...

I feel like I have sacrificed a lot (my career) and we agreed that we wanted me to stay home to take care of our kids and not put them in daycare and that is my primary focus. I also suffer from anxiety so some days I just have a little harder of a time with things than most people. He doesn't understand the anxiety at all. It feels like he doesn't even try to understand it either and that really hurts my feelings.

I was really upset that he said that he does everything around the house so I called him out and he said "stop putting words in my mouth". I mean, are you serious? You JUST said that to me.

He does this a lot, says I twist his words and put words in his mouth. I repeated exactly what was said and we just kept getting more angry at each other. I decided to walk away and said "I'm done" as in done talking/arguing since we clearly weren't getting anywhere with it. And he said "Whatever I don't care" and I said "of course you don't" and he said "Whatever, f*ck you".

He left for work, and said he loved me and kisses my head but I'm so upset with him still and I am still in shock that he said this to me. Who the hell does he think he is to think it's ok to say that to his wife? I mean, seriously...

I don't feel like I can share this with anyone so I was hoping for some advice.

❤️Update: So I decided to write him an email so I could properly gather my thoughts without getting so angry and upset and also because he is at work. He read it and responded. He said he was really sorry and that he will try to be more understanding of what I'm dealing with especially since this pregnancy is different.

He and I decided to talk more later about it and discussed possibly going on a couples retreat. I think it will be nice to have a night or two away from the responsibilities of our little one to really focus on our relationship. I want to get back to where we used to be.

Thank you for your support and helpful advice! You ladies are so uplifting. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone and that other couples deal with similar things but are able to resolve them and move forward.