birth control disagreement
Disclosure::: sexual details in post.
I was having sex with my FWB last night and the condom broke inside of me. Luckily we had stopped before his climax because after a while I was hurting (yes I'm gonna get tested regularly still, please don't trigger those worries I've already been haunted by them all day 😩). I didn't notice because..... well I love rough sex and I thought the *pop* was just him hitting it really hard cause I had already felt multiple pops already. This led to a conversation about birth control. He misunderstood a conversation previously and thought I was on it. I don't want to be on birth control, at all. I don't want non-hormonal ones like an IUD, either. He says he feels "immature" pulling out and ~finishing~ on his partners and prefers to finish inside, but now knowing I'm not on birth control at all he says he nervous about doing that since clearly mine break. The first time we had sex he finished with a condom on with no problems. The other two time we had to stop due to *technical difficulties* because he's on Vicodin for dental issues. Ultimately it's my body and I'm NOT getting on birth control. I've never heard a guy correlate his younger, immature years to the pull-out method? 🤔. Meanwhile my inner freak loves the thought of finishing inside and/or finishing on my body and it took so much to not make a comment about that 😂🤷🏼♀️. I've never had this issue before. He said "you're 29 and a single mom I'm shocked youre not on birth control". Like it's cute you think I'm getting some D that much........ cause I'm totally not 😔😔😔.
Do you think showing him cycle tracking would ease his worries? Or even ovulation tests? That way I show him I'm not attempting to receive his seed on purpose, and of course continue using condoms. He said he's fine continuing using condoms, which made me happy, but if his worries are gonna prevent him from finishing I'm gonna be upset, cause I do like this guy and want everything mutual in bed. If I didn't like him I wouldn't be making this post 🤷🏼♀️. I'd just get mine and be on the way back home. Most guys have done the whole ~well the damage is done so we can stop using them altogether~ line when I've had them break 😐. I just don't wanna be on birth control, much less for a FWB. I hope this is a happy medium, but I've never had a discussion with a guy about birth control options this deep before. IM TRYING TO BE GOOD & DO THE RIGHT THING by making sure I'm protected!
Can you think of other ways to meet in the middle for this situation?
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