So, my husband & I have been wanting a baby for a few years now. We found out about a year ago that he won't be able to father any children, so we started looking in to our options. We fundamentally don't agree on adoption, so that's out. (He only wants a baby, I'd rather take in an older child/children that have been passed over.) Eventually we decided on a donor & one of our closest friends (my best friend) offered to help us. Immediately it all made sense & we decided to go for it. Well, here we are, 6 months later & still nothing. I'm okay with that, it can take a while, I get it. While it may be slightly frustrating at times, overall it's understandable that the bfp hasn't happened yet.

Anyways, just this last weekend, the three of us had a sit down to discuss how things are going. Recently our donor has been dating (less than 3 weeks) this new girl, she knows about the baby stuff & told us all that she thinks it's cool, she doesn't want kids herself, etc. So, many husband & I were concerned how her coming into the picture would effect this. Ultimately, what came out of our meeting was that the guys wanted to put ttc on hold for a few months. I'm totally floored & devastated. I'm in my thirties, only getting older, my doctor has told me not to stop trying, & it isn't what I want to do. No matter my protests, they seemed to not hear me at all. I can't help but feel betrayed deeply. Their entire reasoning behind putting things on hold is to keep the stress levels down. And while I get that, life has stress. It's manageable. I feel like I was ganged up on & not listened to at all.

Sorry to go on for so long. I really do need some advise on how to feel better about this or how to handle it. I'm so angry & upset & can't seem to get over it. I even told my husband, "what ever happened to the 'my body, my choice' rule"? Does that only apply to when I'm pregnant & not any other time? Honestly, I don't know if that was the best thing to say, but it was my only defense. Please, if any of you ladies have any insight, it's greatly appreciated. Thanks.