My boyfriend and I have been living together for over a year now. I got a promise ring back in December last year. We just recently got pregnant. I am 12+4 today! We're in a tough situation. He just graduated from college and is currently looking for a job. No luck yet :( because we don't know where his job will place us, I do not have a job yet either. So we're both jobless and have no idea when we will be moving and where we will be going. Minder, baby on its way…

We always talk about marriage. It is 100% in our future, and it's so much more special now because we have a family starting. The thing is, both sides of our family parents are a bit uneasy about it. We just got into a huge feud between his mother and sister. And they've had choice things to say bad about me and him and him being a mommas boy, I am afraid that may delay certain things.

My family decided to lash out and speech to me this weekend about our situation. My father is very upset that we are not married yet. He believes we should be married before before is born. If not, then he does not want to allow me giving the baby my boyfriends last name.

I tried reassuring my father that it's not that's it isn't going to happen. It WILL happens. Marriage is happening. It just hasn't happened yet ...

I don't know what to do or say. No one will be happy if we aren't married before the baby makes its appearance. But we don't have money for that right now. I've talked to my boyfriend and I mentioned doing a courthouse marriage then we can always do a ceremony down the line ..butttt he says no. He doesn't want me to get married at a courthouse. He says he wants me to have and I deserve the real deal. Also having to do with rings...he wants to get me a new ring before he proposes and we want to be settled and not have so much to worry about at once. I get it and and I'm okay with it. Idc when it happens. If it's after baby is born I don't mind! There's just no way he can buy a ring, we plan a wedding, we pay for everything wedding, and get wedding rings when we are trying to figure out where we're moving to and don't have money or jobs 😑 they don't understand that. They think "because he's a guy" "and that's how they are" he knocks me up and doesn't get down on one knee and leaves me to be with a child. That is not the case. Period. It's just something we can't do right now. Also, the home we live on right now is sooooo not safe for a baby to come live. We HAVE. To move before the baby is here. Then decide everything else. Like sure I wish he could just pop the question to me right now...and so we are officially engaged, then we can get married in a year from now or soemthinf. But he wants the ring for me and I think that's sweet.

I guess just let me know how you feel about this....?