My husband has been depressed lately. He said to me today that he knew this stage would be hard, but he didn't think he would hate it. He thought there would be a lovey dovey feeling that would help the good outweigh the bad, but it's not there. He's not enjoying any of it. He feels like he's constantly on the clock. Constantly grinding. I can tell he's not bonding with our baby. I think he doesn't feel any love towards her but is too afraid to admit it. He says he feels stuck. He says he feels like his life is two things 1. Work. 2. Letting me down.

I don't get on his case about any of this. I have been cheerful, positive, encouraging. I let him sleep in another room while I take night duty entirely since he works full time and I can sleep in/nap with baby. I don't roll my eyes or growl at him when he has to hand her back to me after only holding her for 2 minutes. I immediately offer to change her diaper for him when she poops while he's holding her. I say yes to every single guys night out opportunity that arises for him. I try to make it as easy on him as possible.

Tonight we had a great night with her. Very little fussing. Lots of cute gurgling. Went to bed within 30 min of starting the bedtime routine. But still, after a great night he says he isn't happy. I don't know what to do.

I don't know how to help him. He's so distant and detached. He's irritable and so depressed. What can I do? Anyone else's SO like this?