Is he a deadbeat dad. Is he abusive. A guy that refuses to work and expects you to take care of him and is demanding. It's kinda vague the statements. Has he lost his job and had to settle for a lower paying one until he can find something else. A lower paying job is better than none at all at least he's making an effort and isn't just sitting on the couch in his underwear playing video games and complaining the house isn't clean while he's been home all day and done nothing.