I mentioned this before but I feel like I didn't elaborate enough on my feelings about it.

So yeah basically the dude I'm seeing and I are both 21, and he had told me that he was a virgin, never had a girlfriend, and that he's never kissed a girl either.

I get that sometimes that stuff just doesn't happen until later in life, and I feel that I'm only a bit uncomfortable with it because society doesn't see that as "normal".

But I'm worried about a few things, the first being that I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable about it. I'm also worried that he'll be immature when it comes to relationships and sex, and I have a feeling that I won't be able to deal with that. Like it's one thing to be inexperienced, but another to be immature. As for the inexperienced part, I'm not a very vocal person during sex, because that's I guess not the "role" I'm comfortable in. I don't want to have to tell him what to do, if you understand what I mean. Sex is important to me in a relationship, granted its not the most important thing, however, it's still something that I want to enjoy in a relationship. I also don't want to basically have to tell him how relationships work. He's never been with anyone so I'm assuming that he won't necessarily understand boundaries or how things really work, which again, is an assumption, but I feel like it's definitely a possibility. Another thing is that what if he decides he wants to go out and there and have more experiences? I know of a few people who's partners left because of that and I just think it's kind of ridiculous?? Also, I'm worried that I'll end up kind of controlling almost? He doesn't know about relationships or sex, and I don't want to twist things around just to have him treat me a certain way or do things for me and essentially have me take advantage of him and his naivety.

I'm also concerned about porn and things like that, as that's the only "experiences" he's had, and to me, porn isn't real and it also puts images in people's minds of what a naked woman looks like in person.

Lastly, before he mentioned this to me, we would sext and things like that and the way he would speak to me led me to believe he definitely wasn't a virgin, so this came as a huge shock to me.

I'm looking for advice or comments on how any of you would react in this situation, or if you'd share any of these concerns.

I really don't think I'm over reacting to this, as these are all genuine concerns for not only myself, but for his feelings as well.

That being said tho a girl got anxiety so unclear. 🤔🤔