Before I get started, I'll state that my husband and I started dating when I was 19. So, I didn't have a ton of experience in the bedroom, although my sex drive was high. Luckily, he could supply my demand and we had a lot of sex.

Fast forward 8 years, and I just really want something different. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and I'm not looking to cheat. But, I wish he was bigger. I wish he was rougher. I wish he was interested in initiating new positions. I wish he could last longer. He tells me he can't last long because I'm too tight and it makes him cum quickly.

We can't change how big he is, obviously that is what it is so it'd be fucked up for me to step out on him based on something he can't change about himself.

But do you ladies have any pointers on getting him excited about new positions and getting him to last longer?

I will say since I've been initiating things, he has done it. Last night I had him put my toy in my ass while I played with myself, then he fucked me from behind (with the toy still in me). It was new and enjoyable but he only lasted about two minutes :(

Also, he's interested in going and buying more toys to "play" more and when I ask him to slap my ass or pull my hair, he does (briefly) but again, it makes him cum.

Thanks in advance for any tips!