advice ????

So I have a choice of moving with my boyfriend Getting a job and an apartment together Or staying at home. My family is very protective over me so obviously they're freakin out when I told them I'm thinkin about moving out (I'm 20) My family is a pretty well off middle class family both parents went to college make decent money etc.  My boyfriend on the other hand has had an entiiiire life of struggle, no true family unit , basically the complete opposite of me. My family doesn't like him at all. My mom blatantly told me she doesn't want me to marry him . She doesn't think he can "provide for me". She always told me to marry for money and not for love. But I can't help but think that's wrong. He's doing everything in his power to provide He has a job and is currently looking for a second . We love each other so much . And my heart is literally breaking , I feel like I have to choose to either grow up and be an adult and move up in life and be with the man I love , or choose my family just so they won't be mad at me whom I also love dearly n stay at home with not shit to do (live in no- mans- land) and a bunch of rules and chores over my head and lose my relationship because he's moving away. I feel like I'm being torn apart . HELP