Foundation for pale skin??

So obviously, I'm very pale. Every foundation I get is always too dark. And I always get the lightest of every foundation I have tried. Even before it oxidizes it's too dark. So depending on the foundation my face is either too dark and pinky or dark and orange and my neck is 2 shades lighter. I know they say to bring it down your neck but I can't do that since I know it will be way darker. Just wondering if anyone who is TRULY lily white like myself has found a perfect brand or shade of foundation that they love?