Very concerned young first time soon to be mom?!

Recently I moved states to be closer to family since I'm going to be having my first baby soon and I thought it would a good thing to have grandparents around and my baby to be around family growing up..

I had to switch doctors and I picked one that was closest as it's most convenient for giving birth and saving on gas. I went to my original doctor, made the long trip crossing state lines, and the next day gave consent to transfer documents.

Somewhere on the line it got backed up for two whole weeks and the new doctor just couldn't wait any longer and made me an appointment. I was told days ahead of time it was to be a meet and greet and I was fine with that. The nurse sat down with me and got all of my family history and when it came time to ask about tests and due date, everything got very out of hand very fast.

When asking how far along I was I gave them my due date, told them I'm measuring average for the due date, and that I'd already had ultrasounds done multiple times to confirm everything since I'm carrying a stubborn little girl who doesn't like to show things. They immediately took a couple steps back away from me and told me I was wrong by looking at my belly and said I was at least two weeks under how far along I was told before. No matter how many times me or my family who have been to the appointments tried to tell them.. we were the ones to be wrong. We just ended up letting it roll off of our backs.

When it came time to talk about the testings they told me I had to retake my glucose, pap, and blood work plus they wanted to see if the baby had any issues with blood tests. I told them I had already had it all done before and I didn't care how my baby came out, I was going to love her no matter what. I told them multiple times I refuse the tests until my paperwork comes from the other doctor and it needs to be done. The nurse just gives me a look and tells me she will talk to the doctor.

Days go by, and it's about 16 hours before my appointment. Now, up until this point I've been very calm, very happy go lucky, very sweet, and very quiet as I'm just rolling with the punches. The nurse calls me and tells me my appointment has been changed and I need to show up two hours earlier to do a glucose test and then go to a different clinic 30 minutes away to do a sonogram before my meet and greet. I told them I refused to gluten and I didn't need a sonogram. The nurse tells me that because they still don't have my records they have to have this all tested before I'm allowed to see a doctor. I asked why, "we have to have records on you that you completed the tests". I asked if we could wait and reschedule until my paperwork came in, "no, doctor needs to see you now". Very frustrating to know everything is healthy and not have your answers, answered.

Day of the appointment: No one could point me to the right direction of where I was supposed to go in this hospital to save anyone's life.. but finally we made it and I'M late because of them walking me all over this place and check in took 30 minutes for me to sign three papers and not even be talked to like a human being.

They send me to the lab when they sit me down and are just about to shove a needle into my arm when I tell them no. I got kinda mad because I'm already lightheaded since I was told to start fasting 18 hours before this lab and now they want to drain my arm. The nurse gets really huffy and walks out. Another nurse comes in to try to convince me to do the test by telling me in around about way with a fake smile on her face that I'm a terrible mother for not looking after my child's health if I don't take this test and walks out. Another nurse calls on the phone and then threatens to cancel my appointment with the doctor and make me pay for the appointment without 24 hours notice of I don't take this test. So I sit down and I basically cry as I'm forced to take this test. My glucose levels are great by the way, no gestational diabetes for me.

I get to the second part of the test and the nurse is not only snapping at me but also my mother in law because we asked questions. Though I feel bad for whoever goes there for sonogram pictures because they were the worst pictures I'd ever seen, probably cause I said I didn't want any pictures yet she gave them to me anyway, I ended up throwing them in the trash, yes THAT TERRIBLE. Oh! And I was measuring how far along I said I was.

Third and final part of appointment, my lied about to my face meet and greet. I was told upon walking into the room that I was going to have a pap smear done. I told them no again, only in a nicer way because it generally concerned me to have one done when I've read it can cause you to go into labour early. My nurse looks me in the eye and says they won't swob and they just want to take a look at my cervix. The doctor enters room and tells me she is going to swob and no matter how many times I tell her it concerns me, I'm greeted with "no. I'm the doctor. I know." So without being gentle the clamp goes in and even though I shout out in pain not only from the clamp but from the swobbing, I'm ignored and told to just spread my legs. Once that's done she takes three fingers and enters and I start crying again because there is so much pain radiating from her checking mt cervix and pelvis with her fingers.

After I sit up and ask her about birthing plan options she in a way tells me that it's pointless and everything I'm considering on there isn't fully researched such as refusing synthetic vitamin K shot, refusing gel eye drops in the baby, and delayed cord clamping, "she's a doctor. She knows." and I hated it so much that she had to end it with "we'll talk about it more towards birth" with a smile on her face then leaves the room.

Their blood tests they sent me for, I had no fight left in me and just didn't bother.

Now immediately after the smear my body started cramping but no one wanted to answer questions for me anymore and avoided me in the halls. Hours later slowly but sure my cervix has been giving me an uncomfortable feeling that seems to only slowly getting worse.

I am absolutely stumped at what to do. I am being forced and bullied to do things. I'm being talked down to when I've done research or when I have real questions. I'm in pain and uncomfortable but I'm terrified to call that doctor. I don't know what's going on in my uterus and that's making me even more terrified because I don't want to go into early labour. I just want more than one opinion on what to do.