How do I talk to my boyfriend about his porn use?

I'm aware that there have been several porn topics in the past. This post is mainly on how to have a conservation with my boyfriend because of the circumstance.

So, to begin with, we both watched porn. We both knew this going into the relationship. I never actually thought about it, either. I liked to watch it and I figured that if i did, then he could too. After seeing some of the women on this app upset over porn usage, I begun to ask my close friends about porn in their relationships. Surprisingly, a lot of them were not okay with porn usage, and they had very good reasons.

None of those reasons were fears that their SO would cheat on them. It didn't make them feel insecure. It didn't make them feel ugly, or not good enough. To them, it's a common habit that society has developed that we all have to learn to just "get over." Most men do it, so therefore, we need to accept, even though there are several reasons why it is not good for them, including: affecting the reward system negatively, giving a false picture of sex and intimacy, decreasing arousal and sensitivity over long term, and unrealistic beauty standards for our partners. My friends were not afraid that their SO did not desire them, but that longer term, they no longer would.

This makes sense. It makes sense because we grow older and we may go through child birth. Our bodies will change and we will look older, heavier, or more scarred. Or all of the above. We will look more imperfect. As a 23 year old, porn use is not a threat to me. Seeing myself as a mature adult, it would be a threat. Teen porn, unfortunately, is the most searched and viewed porn in the industry. There have been several studies correlating erectile dysfunction and porn use, and a lot of other negative side effects.

In conclusion, I have stopped watching porn a few weeks ago because of these side effects. Just within a few weeks, I have became more comfortable with how my body looks. I stopped comparing myself to others. I have a heightened interest in having sex with my boyfriend, especially with being intimate, instead of just being "fucked" like i used to like it.

I would really like to ask him to limit his porn use. He watches it almost everyday, and I have to agree that that can't be healthy. It honestly concerns me. Once a week... okay, I get it. Daily? It kind of hurts to think about. I want to ask him to avoid porn as much as he can, but I'm worried about having expectations that can't be met. I'm worried about creating problems.