Husband not helping with baby/drinking problem.

LONG!

Let me start off by saying: I absolutely love and adore my husband. We both have issues just like anyone else, but we are great together...most of the time.

My husbands fathers side drinks A LOT (drunk everyday and/or night). I would call them functioning alcoholics. His Grandma causes so much crap and drama at family events because she drinks too much and stirs things up. His dad has completely ruined his family with his drinking, being the reason for his mom and dads divorce.

My husband has always enjoyed drinking as well. When we were dating, there were too many occasions to count that he drank too much and lashed out at me, called me horrible names, and even left (drunk drove). He does not get physically abusive, but he does get verbally abusive. He doesn't know his limit. He even threatened suicide once while totally blacked out.

I gave him an ultimatum at the beginning of last year. Limit himself to two beers at a time or quit completely. I was done with the bullshit. We're almost thirty and we both really wanted to TTC. He BEGGED me to start a family. He did amazing all year and we found out I was pregnant in the beginning of September. We were both so thrilled.

I guess he got comfortable because he started drinking more and more (very gradually and slowly). I did not want to be controlling so it was hard for me to voice my concern...and anytime I would, he would tell me I have nothing to worry about.

I gave birth in June of this year. Since then, he has not once put her to bed or even a nap. He doesn't even hold her once a day. He changes probably two diapers a week...if I'm lucky. If I walk away from her and she starts crying, he won't do anything to calm her. He will sit on his phone and ignore it. I do breastfeed, but I feel like he could help more. I am a SAHM and he works the weekend shift... so he is off Monday-Thursday.

Since she was born, he started drinking a beer everyday. Now it's turned into him drinking more and more...like I suspected. Sunday night he hid beer in his backpack that he drank ON HIS WAY HOME! Yes, he drank and drove. He started drinking at three yesterday and kept drinking all night.. I counted at least eight beers. I read him one of the stories on this app and he said "That app is full of a bunch of bitchy women and all of those stories are probably not true." I let it go... he then proceeded to admit to being SEXIST.

He won't quit drinking. He needs professional help. He won't listen to me when I tell him that though. He has admitted in the past to having a drinking problem. His priorities are so messed up now because of this problem. I DO NOT want our daughter growing up thinking that drinking everyday is okay or normal.

Does anyone have any advice? I'm really lost here and don't know what to do.

We are across the country from family and just recently moved six hours away from all of our friends so I'm all alone here.