Tried anal for the first time

So my husband and I tried anal for the first time today.. did not go well for me.

We always joke around about him putting it in my butt and today he asked if we could actually try.

Well for one I could not relax for the life of me. Two, I have hemorrhoids. I've had them since I was a kid... And three, we didn't have any lube just a condom.

So we started off slow and I was so tense. I tried to relax but I couldn't... it didn't help that he got carried away. He started to enjoy it and picked up the pace. He was going a bit fast and I just could not take it. I felt like I was going to pee myself and it just was not pleasurable for me.

Like it didn't hurt but it didn't feel good either.

We stopped before he could finish and I ran to the bathroom. My anus feels inflamed and I keep feeling like I have to poop. Not fun. Afterwards we finished having sex but for the next half hour it was awkward bc he thought he hurt me but I was okay. Just a bit weirded out and uncomfortable.

We might try it again but take it wayyyyyyyyyyyy slower.

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