Why are women so rude!

I understand not all women are but the ones that are in my life just blow my mind. Short back story: my fiancé has a large group of friends, everyone's married/engaged so all the women met through the guys. I live far from them so I've never built close relationships, just enough to hang out for long weekends, holidays, baby showers etc. We were set to be married 2/24/18 but found out I'm due 3/9/18 so our wedding got moved up and pushed back. Quick cermony this fall big party 2/2019. We told all his friends this weekend and there was zero excitement from the women. I got these comments; well you weren't on birth control what did u expect. Can you take that with your situation. It pisses me off the women can be so judgmental just bc we're not married yet. We're 33 and 31 btw. Just needed to vent. Thanks