I need some serious advice ....
Okay ...Let's start off saying I am 20'years old so I'm young and this guy im with is actually my first real deal relationship he's 22. I been with him since I was 18. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant with both of our first child!
So fast forward to the beginning of my pregnancy...at 4 weeks I found out I was pregnant. I was beyond excited my boyfriend on the other hand seemed a little shocked 😳 why I don't know he knew the consequences of having unprotected sex! He asked if I wanted a abortion I straight up and said no and he said okay good cause I don't want you to have one either. So I was happy and blessed he said such a thing but, he seemed not excited so I thought he's still processing it. But 3 months into my pregnancy I couldn't work no longer so I had to resign I was a CNA 😞. I told him he needs to save for us and our baby! He said he will.
My boyfriend was a lab tech in training and getting paid good and we had our own place so since I couldn't afford half the bills he found us a roommate which was his friend 🤔 it worked out for awhile until his friend asked me to cook for him one morning while my boyfriend was at work um what 😑 I'm not your girl I confronted my boyfriend and he basically told me I lied, so I left and went to my moms. He acted like he didn't much care since we were only legit 5 mins away.
So fast forward...the place ended up getting robbed it was an armed robbery so my boyfriend felt unsafe and moved out and broke the lease and went back to his moms until he can find another place...I'm like 5 months when this happened. I'm still at my moms.My mom has a extra room and decided to make this a nursery, I'm the last child to have a baby so makes sense i guess. Anyways everything in the nursery my mom practically bought the crib, the baby glider all of it down to the baby wash cloths I have everything here ...my boyfriend bought nothing. And once again I'm telling him to save for us and our baby....he makes enough to save and his bills aren't that high.
So fast forward to when I was 8months...this boy spends all the savings to get damn car rims ....new car rims that he didn't need at all. I was so mad I didn't say a damn thing at all 😡 he has nothing saved for us or his baby at all not considering the fact in a month we will be having a entire human being. He doesn't even have nothing saved for a apartment for atleast him🤦🏽♀️ so to this point I'm embarrassed because everyone kept telling him to save and he has nothing. We live 30mins away now and when I go visit I have to legit pack my own raw food to cook cause he can't afford to even take me to McDonald's. Do you know how embarrassing that is?? You can't even feee your pregnant girl that so you called loved because you blewww your entire check and savings?!
So I'm now in my 9 month! He confronts me about something that a guy will send him 1500 thru money gram and you send the 500 back to him and you keep the 1000, im telling him no it's a scam dont do that can you please just keep it like I've been telling you (he seriously just got paid) and me being sweet and shit I'm like I don't want you to lose your money you really need it the baby will be here sooner than you think (at this point its to late for him to save anyways) now they took all his money i legit CRIED !! my boyfriend has no money, if I go into labor right now he won't even be able to make it to the hospital because he has no gas , and he has no money to even put towards gas. Now he wants me to move in with in 4 months after his moms lease is up. I said no because he doesn't have his priorities straight and I can learn how to manage my baby ,school and work while at my moms by myself . Instead of being bothered with a man that only thinks about himself. So i to go back and forth and i can spend a couple of nights there with our baby such and he can probably come here to spend the night with us. But I am not moving in with him anymore. Also all the stuff my mom has bought for the crib at her house she won't let me take , so if I wanted to move in with him he wouldn't even have the money to buy a bassinet, diapers ect for him . Am I wrong for this???? He makes me feel like I'm in the wrong
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