Am I just been special and a bit dumb? 🤔😐 I totally don't understand what is happening or understand why this would be appropriate 😞

UPDATE* #2

So I myself just sent a very firm worded email to his solicitor in a manner instructed by my mother (she's a solicitor just not family law unfortunately) stating very simple and clearly that we pay him to do a job and he works for my husband not his ex (we pay a lot for him) I outlined very clearly what we hired him for and what we expected from him also pointed out that unfortunately he's failed to do this so far and due to him lacking in this department we've felt we have no choice but to instructions another solicitor and that his services will no longer be need. Also that we have put a formal complaint in regarding his negligence with his firm and if it can't be resolved this way then we feel it needs to be reported to the SSC for them to investigate. (We have all emails regarding what he was instructed to do and all emails of him refusing) fingers crossed things get better from here on out and we get some solution regarding this incompetent solicitor. Will update Friday 25th once we've met with the new solicitor on how we get on 😊 thanks everyone

So my husband baby momma stopped him from seeing his son because we where getting married and expecting a baby together, despite his best efforts he couldn't get her to allow contact so he took her to court. Since he hadn't seen his son in a few months he agreed to meet at soft play with his ex and there son to allow his son to be comfortable around him before he has visit at our home. There will only be four with his ex before that changed to his son coming here. Now this part I understand... now let's move on to what's confusing me- they've just had the first 1 hour meet and his ex kept distracting his son or trying to join in on bonding time and talk to my husband about his personal life 🤔 of course he was a little disappointed about this but didn't make a seen and email his solicitor once he returned. To see if he could contact her solicitor and ask her if she could try and not do this on the next visit that he understand it's hard but It prevent him from completely bonding with his son (now I personally thought he was very understanding) only to receive a email back saying that his ex found it uncomfortable because he didn't talk to her. (They did discuss his son and how he was getting on. My husband just didn't want to discuss his personal life with her) understandable that his personal life is non of her business.. then his solicitor goes on to say that he should try and talk to her during the visit and build a relationship with his ex. Now is it just me been a bit dumb or are these visits for his son to get to know him again? Because from what's he's been told it seems like these visits are for her benefit... as I don't understand why he needs to have a relationship with his ex you can be civil without the relationship yes? ....

Feel I must add she's done everything she can in the last year to try and get him to spend time with her and play happy family's.

UPDATE * #1

He has made it very clear from day one that he doesn't wish to have a relationship with his ex partners and that he has a wife and child on they way. That he's happy to be civil with her regarding there son but it won't go any further than that. Unfortunately it feels like he is struggling to understand this, also his solicitor know how much trouble she has created including having to have police involvement in regards to some of this as it got out of control with her. The odd thing is she is also in a new relationship so don't understand why she would even want to force him to spend time with her or be with her. 😪 it's just so hard sometimes