Maybe a bit of a long post. So for a bit of background, I'm 20, in college, I have a job, my parents pay for my housing (i'm on a full tuition scholarship) and I pay for almost everything else, aside from the occasional gift or grocery allowance.

I've always had trouble with being honest or telling the truth to my parents. I love them dearly but we hold very different belief systems but I also think they still see me as "their baby" which is understandable because I'm their oldest, their first born, so I get why it would be hard to see me grow up and become more independent.

I've definitely withheld information from my parents before on account of I was paying for things with my own money and knew that they would only protest or going place on my own dime, small trips in my uni area, and knowing that if they had to pay for it they would say no. So this past weekend, I took a 3 day trip to visit a friend from high school, but my boyfriend's hometown isn't too far from where she lives, so I spent my first day, while my friend was working, with my boyfriend and his family, which was great. I got to meet his sisters and some of his extended family and had a really great time. Then spent the rest of the weekend with my friend from high school. My parents only know about me having visited my friend from high school. I didn't tell them about visiting my boyfriends family because they don't think I'm in a serious enough relationship to justify traveling to visit someone, which I really disagree with because I'm the one in the relationship. I'm the only one who can gauge that, not them. I guess what I'm trying to work through is, was it wrong for me not to tell them if I was traveling on my own dime? Am I being reasonable in my not wanting to tell them? Is it reasonable that I want to be more independent and treated more like an adult, even though I'm fully aware that they still support me in a few areas of my life, financially? Thoughts, advice?