Sorry this is so long....

My 16 year old brother in law just moved to my state to meet and live with his biological father. He has been here a little over a month and I am honestly concerned.

Electricity is not consistently on. There is no way for anyone to get in touch with the father. The house is borderline hoarder, there are pathways to get to each room. He was complaining about being hungry, I thought he was exaggerating until I dropped him off and saw literally no food in the kitchen. Took a couple days to get in touch with the father, he said they ran out of food stamps but will get more soon. And his father didn't have money to give him for lunch. They applied for reduced meals but it hasn't processed yet. By that point I had already put money on his school account and helped get his moms online access fixed so she can keep it topped off.

The mom is across the country, and she is doing everything she can considering the distance. She flew over to get him registered for school, tasked the father with setting up the required district testing so his HS credits get applied correctly. Well that didn't happen. I had a bad feeling and stopped at the school to get an update after a couple weeks. I ended up scheduling his testing. His father couldn't get him to the testing facility so me and my husband have been taking time off to get it sorted.

I want to help make sure this kid is in a healthy environment and help him graduate. But at the same time he is 16, he should know when to reach out for help.

I don't want him to stay with us. He is a problem child and has already burned down his mom's shed, has anger issues and punches walls doors etc. Counseling hasn't helped. I have him over Sunday's for food, games, and I offer to help with his homework. From what I have seen I do not trust him alone with my baby, and I don't feel all too comfortable around him either.

I'm honestly torn. I feel I should call CPS, but I don't know if any of this is considered abuse or neglect. Plus I fear his father retaliating against me, he just got out of prison (15 yrs) for violence and drug charges...