Am I over reacting?

I'm so stressed I just need to vent, and see if I'm overreacting.....

I lost my daughter a month ago, right after birth, so putting me at 4 weeks PP just about.

Obviously OBs tell you to take it easy for 6 weeks, loss or not....

Well, my family of 3(husband, 20 month old, and myself) had to move from Hawaii.

Planning a move, cleaning, packing, ect. All in two weeks.

THEN we get back to the states and now we are flat broke since my husband had to quit his jobs so we could move... we haven't planned our daughters funeral/burial even because we have been trying to get settled at his parents house(since we can't afford our own place and down payments yet)

We also haven't been able to call anyone for the burial since we have no money to even pay for it.

BUT my mom is being a huge ass obviously not caring about any of this since she is complaining I'm not helping her move into HER new house, or help her fix it up(the previous renters destroyed it)

She is making it seem that losing my daughter is nothing and like I should just get over it.

HOW THE FUCK AM I TO DO THAT?!?

She's my fucking daughter, not a damn pet fish.

She also went as far as to blame ME for one of our close friends not helping her either because "I'm back in town" like wtf does me being back have ANYTHING to do with her?!?