Regret abortion?

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Hello, I had a very early abortion at 4 weeks (took the 2 pills) about 4 years ago when I had just gotten married, was changing jobs, under tons of stress, and moving to a new city. I got pregnant on birth control pills and was drinking heavily due to stress (hence the move out of a busy city and new job). At the time, I felt like I made the right decision and my husband agrees. Flash forward to now - We have now been in an ideal place physically, financially and emotionally to get pregnant and have been TTC for about 3 months with no luck. I go through waves of depression thinking that I'm being somehow punished for my decision 4 years ago and missed out on my baby. I didn't think it would be this hard to conceive when I got pregnant on birth control. Has anyone else gone through something like this? How did you deal with the emotional side/feeling like you're being punished? No hateful pro-life comments here please...

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I'm going through the same exact thing right now. Sometimes I worry that I'm being punished for my choice but I was definitely not in a good place to be having a baby. Just remember that abortions do not sterilize you and you'll get your second chance. Try not to get discouraged. If you've been pregnant before at least you know you're capable!

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I was forced into abortion as a late teen i had just turned 18 and was a senior in highschool ..my father told me i needed to make a decision ..get an abortion or find somewhere to go ... i didnt have anywhere to go so my mom took me to the doc.... since then i have had 3 boys but cant conceive now ...ive tried clomid..ive change my lifestyle as in eating and going to the gym everyday ive been TTC for 3 years ...im pretty discouraged ....but i was not punished ...and neither are you.... it will come !!! Good luck!!!

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I'm a Christian and I've never had an abortion but I want to offer some love and hope.  While we all do things that later we regret, God is a Father of mercy and grace, especially when we are repentant for our wrongs. Having difficulty conceiving now is not God punishing you for that decision. For it's His goodness which leads us to repentance, not shame. We are welcome to live under a new convenant, one of forgiveness, restoration, and as I said initially, grace (getting good we dont deserve) and mercy (not getting what we do deserve). 
You may feel this is what you deserve, but those are thoughts the devil uses to keep the world in bondage, torment, and shame...and away from receiving the fullness of our Heavenly Father's love and all that comes with it.  As we live in a broken, sin-cursed world on this side of life, things don't always operate as the Lord originally intended. Hence sickness, disease, evil, etc. However, I believe that faith in Christ, frees us from having to live bound in and to these things. Doesn't mean we don't/won't have trials, but there's a supernatural rising above we are empowered and endowed with.  Everything I'm saying is Scripture based, if you'd like to talk more, please let me know.  
But know that the Lord is Jehovah Jireh (God who provides) and Jehovah Rapha (God who heals [emotionally, mentally, spiritually, & physically]). I pray you find comfort in these words.

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I went through something similar. When my now husband and I just started dating, I got pregnant by using the pull out method. Our relationship was literally a month in. He told me he would support whatever decision I decided on, and was so supportive. Now 7 years into our relationship, and 3 years into marriage 1.5 year trying to conceive at 32 I can't help but be depressed about it. But at the time we did what we thought was right, and so did you. Our angel baby's will come. Baby dust to you hun ✨

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I got married and had my son at 22. At 25 I got pregnant again and just couldn't bear the thought of having another baby. My marriage was a disaster, my husband was an alcoholic and I was the one making a consistent but low income. 
I had to make the best decision possible for my son and myself. I knew that if I had a second child, life would be exponentially more difficult (and it was already unbearable) and it would be even harder for me to leave. I was talked into getting married and regretted that decision every day, the decision to have an abortion was my own and I felt like I was finally able to make an empowered choice. 
Don't get me wrong. It's a terrible decision to have to make and I was heartbroken for a long time. 
At 34 I finally had the courage to leave. It was sooooo hard. My son and I really struggled and I can't imagine how I capsule have made it withered children. I remarried a few months  ago and we are now TTC. There is definitely a little thought in the back of my mind that I won't be able to conceive and part of that will be punishment for getting the abortion. 
I never told anyone about that choice until a few years ago when I told my best friend and my mom. It's still hard for me to talk about now, and I really appreciate this forum and knowing that WE are not alone.

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I am going through the same exact thing...in 2014 I was going through a very stressful time money wasn't where I wanted it to be, I was in the process of looking for a new job and had just moved into a new apartment...long story short I was on BC but my prescription ran out and my doc wouldn't write me a new script until I had an office visit, which they didn't have availability until the following month..I got pregnant. My partner and I didn't feel it was the right time so we decided on an abortion (I did the pills as well)...2 weeks after the abortion I got an amazing new job with a nice jump in pay which changed EVERYTHING 😑 I immediately regretted my decision. Now 3yrs later my partner and I are still together and have been trying to conceive for a year now with no luck. I always tell him I feel like I'm being punished for what I did. It's so depressing and I feel like no-one understands. On the flip side I'm an L&D; nurse and I see so many girls with multiple abortions (ive seen someone with 10) and still able to conceive...so honestly idk what I'm doing wrong

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We've all made choices that were better for us at a certain point in our lives. I was young 16 when I had an accidental pregnancy will using protection and my mother forced me to have an abortion and I was devastated and another one at 19 due to an ex husband threatening me if I kept it. Since then I've had 4 daughters and 3 miscarriages and I look at those 3 miscarriages as punishment from god for doing what I did and I'm currently trying to have my very last baby with no luck on getting pregnant. I wish you the best with having a baby soon.

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Same but I’ve been trying for 5 and a half years after :( nothing yet

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