I'm going to start off by saying that I love my children more than I could ever explain and I would do anything and everything for them both!!

BUT sometimes... they drive me completely bonkers! I'm at the point with my 5 yo that I don't even know what to do anymore. They're good kids most of the time but some days it feels like I'm constantly yelling at them!! 😭 I hate having to yell but it literally feels like that's the ONLY thing that gets my 5yo to listen. I ask her nicely to do or not to do things and she is just so in her own world all the time, she just doesn't seem to pay any attention to what she is doing or if she was asked not to do something, she keeps doing it over and over until I have to yell and then she cries and when I say I already asked you nicely, she uses the "well I forgot" excuse. Even though she had been asked, told, and finally yelled at 10 times in the past 15-20 mins.

I hate having to yell and scream at my kids, it breaks my heart 💔 but I don't even know what to do when I've already asked nicely 3-4 times, then got stern a few more times and she still doesnt listen, then I feel I have no choice but to yell because it seems to be the only thing that gets through to her...

she also is a major follower and sees what other kids/her 2 yo sister is doing and she starts copying. We notice it all the time. But she has a problem where I can literally ask her sister not to do something and she goes over and starts doing it. I'm like "you just heard me tell her not to do that, why are you doing it?" and her answer is always "well 'so and so' was doing it" and I say, "ok and you heard me ask them to stop, why would you think its ok for you to do?" and she just says "I dunno" and shrugs her shoulders. how do I... I don't wanna say "fix" this behavior, but how do I get her to listen? is this just normal for a 5 yo? - to have zero attention span and forget almost instantly that they were asked/told, to/not to do something? I'm at my wits end, I hate feeling like I yell all day, it breaks my heart, it makes her cry. now just when I raise my voice, my 2 year old tells me to stop yelling even if I'm not even yelling. it just makes me feel like that's all I ever do and its killing me guys, what do I do??