My boyfriends mother died of alcohol abuse

My mother is a healthy and spry alcholic.

We have had our own experiences drinking together and decided it doesn't always bring out our best, so better off without it.

I am more social, adventurous and extroverted

He is shy, simplistic and introverted

This can be a much more challenging sacrifice for me than it is for him. Mostly just when it comes to attending events with alcohol potentially being part of the environment.

Parties, celebrations, weddings, bachelor/ette parties

All of these are fun and exciting to me with or without alcohol! But he prefers to have these completely cut out

We fight about his a lot because I feel like I have to compromise my personality since I like to be around people and high energy atmospheres! Unfortunately these often have alcohol involved. I feel lick a dick saying that I need to "party" or attend these events. He says he always told himself he wouldn't get into a relationship where he had to worry about any of this being an issue

We are serious, living together and have talked about marriage. I feel like this is something we need to figure out before we get married.