So my husband and I married last year and became pregnant right away but I miscarried. Some time pass and we decided to have the baby talk. By the end of the conversation I told him If he wants us to try to have a baby it is completely up to him because I'll be happy/fine whether we have a baby or not. But I need him to be sure that's what he really wants. Well more time went by.. no more baby talk. Then one weekend while we were out of town, he decided not to be the " pull out king"😆. My first thought was to say something like....I quess we're trying or start celebrating but a little voice said keep your mouth shut. So ever since the "pull out king hasn't made a reappearance"😆 All this to say, Not talking about it feels less stressful. There is no pressure that everytime we make love it has to result in a pregnancy. I don't feel a need to let him know I'm ovulating (I just initiate) or AF made her unwanted visit. As I read many stories on this site.... the joy that comes with the decision to try, turns into talking about it every waking minute, turns into obsession, turns into disappointment when it doesn't happen after a BD. Lovemaking becomes a chore and sometimes cause a partner to not want to try anymore because to see you so unhappy month after month is just to much. Not talking about it is actually peaceful and enjoyable. I'm glad it happened this way. This approach may not be for everyone but it works for me. Hoping it works for someone else. Blessings to all🌈👣