Multiple failed 'first times'

So I was just wondering how you guys got past the pain of your first time. I swear I'm experiencing abnormal pain, it even hurts to get fingered!! And my boyfriend has done it multiple times! I'm going off to university soon and I wanna be intimate with my bf before I leave!! Anyone have any suggestions on how to ease the pain or share your first times and how you got though it! Sorry you've probably seen a thousand posts like this