Growing up my mother was always my biggest bully. Physically and emotionally/mentally. Still to this day I have -120% self-esteem. My mom and younger sister are VERY strong physically. My mom use to hit is with the belt, her fits, just about anything and everything. My mom also has mental illnesses and serious anger and control issues. I am 20 and now married and live with my husband. My sister can take my mom on, but I can't. I am strong, but not as strong. I am the nerdy, geek, reading and video games kind of person. I was just told though that it is pathetic that I am still TERRIFIED of my mother. They said I am a weakling and need to grow up. Do you think it's pathetic that I am still scared if her?