Is it ok to be upset ?

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Found out yesterday night at the ER that i'm currently miscarrying @ 8 weeks.. I've obviously been a mess seeing as it wasn't even 24 hours.. This morning I was silently crying in the bathroom (I have to cry alone) I walked into my SO masturbating to porn and I was just so disgusted and hurt that he could be doing something like this when I couldn't even bear to think about sex yet never mind masturbating...Keep in mind of course he's hurt because we lost our baby but I feel like this isn't the right time for him to be doing this .. am I in the wrong for being upset about it?

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what an asshole I would leave him. I'm sorry to be so blunt be that doesn't show me that he loves you

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My boyfriend sometimes masturbates to stop panic attacks. About four days after my complete MC he and I had the best therapy sex ever. It made me feel like my body was my own and that it could still be sexy after the trauma. Its not too related but I know that feeling my body do something normal and getting that sexual release helped ease my pain. He may have felt completely insensitive asking for sex from you knowing the pain you are going through but knowing he needed release. But if he is acting like everything is normal and he doesn't care about your MC then there is something to be upset about.

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i would for sure be pissed off! you have every right.

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Personally I don't think it's a big deal. It may be a stress reliever for him. I know when my hubby is stressed out or having a rough day he is always in a much better mood after we've had sex. 
I mean yeah he should be comforting you and it's messed up he was masturbating while you were crying, but did he even know that you were in the bathroom crying? Maybe he was horny as all hell and obviously didn't want to ask you for sex or anything so he just thought he'd rub it out quickly without bothering you. 🙈

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When we lost ours masterbation was the last thing on his mind. He stayed home and took care of me. Heating up my rice pad heating pad in the microwave every time it got cold and going and getting me food. But about a week into no sex he said baby I gotta get off are you gonna help me out cuz if not I'll go take care of it.

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You have every right to be upset; I'd be surprised if you weren't. I'm sorry for your loss.

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Yes it is absolutely OK and normal to be upset

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First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of prayers and good thoughts. It is absolutely ok to be upset, I would tell him how it made you feel. But just realize that people deal with emotions in all kinds of ways. Sexual release can be a positive way for some people to cope. Definitely try and talk it out, but remember you're both going through something and maybe it helped him in some way.

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Yea that's fucked . 
My SO and I didn't have sex for two weeks after both of my miscarriages . 
The last one was so devastating for my partner I felt it affected him just as much as me . That was truly the LAST thing on our minds . 
You have every right to be upset .

Is it ok to be upset ?

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