So my husband and I agreed his 14 year old son would come live with us and try out this school year. That's fine I'm fine with it and I'm trying to be as supportive as possible. However we do have three girls age 5,3 and a 10 month old. My step-son already moved in with us and I asked my husband to talk to him and set a list of chores for him to do. My husband hasn't yet and my husband is the kind of man who doesn't really discipline or is very involved in his kids life. Meaning his son and his sister from his first marriage. But he wanted his son to come live with us since he did horrible last year in school. So anyway Tonight we got into and argument bcs my step-son is starting school soon and since he came to live with us every day he's been waking up around 1 or 2 in the afternoon witch means he stays up really late and is on the internet till god knows when. He usually wakes up eats and goes back in his room unless I ask him to help throw the trash out or stuff like that. I guess what I'm more concerned about is. I have my 5 year old to worry about who will start kinder soon. I'm getting her into a routine to go to bed early so we won't struggle in the morning. But I'm concerned bcs my husband works I stay home. And I'm going to be the one having to deal with His son in the mornings. Well I asked my husband nicely if he can talk to his son about going to bed early and I suggested he put a restriction on the wifi till a certain time so it turns off and he won't be on the internet all night. So that way he gets in the habit of going to bed early and waking up early without me having to worry about him or stress about it. He agreed but when I asked him about it tonight he was really rude about it and said I'm already complaining and school hasn't started. I asked what does he stay up so late and what is he watching his response was I don't know I'm tired I'm not going to check. So I said your his dad you need to monitor what he is watching. I said he's a boy and he could be watching porn who knows what he watches or what he's doing in his room all day. He got so defensive and said he doesn't watch porn! And I told him you don't know that you don't monitor what he watches and your pretty much saying you don't care. But we have 3 little girls and you never know. Well he pretty much said I need to just stay out of it and mind my own business and what pisses me off is he wants me to support him cook help him out with his son but want me to not have a saying about what his son does or doesn't do. I don't know what to do. I just feel like my husband is being ungrateful. Im willing to help him but then again he doesn't want me to make any kind of decisions regarding his son. And hes obviously not being a responsible parent that's why I brought this whole thing up. Pretty much he wants his son to live here have to rules just let him do whatever he wants. I'm not ok with that I have three little girls and honestly don't know where things will go from here If we don't come to an agreement. He just pretty much just brought him to live here and there. Am I getting ahead of myself? Should I just butt-out & let him deal with his son. I don't understand my husband and his reasonings. He's always so caught up with work and never pays attention to anything. So this is why I brought it up to his attention bcs I feel he's not old enough to just let him do what he wants. He needs guidance. But my husband was really rude and I thought I was really helping him out. What should I do should I just let him deal with him. But what I think it's unfair is he doesn't complain about the stuff I do for his son. Any advice??