Hey guys! I wanted to make this post in hopes that maybe someone has been in the same boat as me, and I'm kind of unsure about how to feel about the situation I'm in. So here goes.. I'm 21 years old, engaged to my best friend since the 2nd grade. We've been together for a little over a year now. In January, we decided to start trying to have a baby. I've always been so baby crazy and we just decided to see if we could make it happen. I just graduated college, I'm about to start a new job this coming month as a Medical Assistant at a Senior clinic and I'm very excited. Everything in my life seemed to be improving all at once, and I hoped that I would become pregnant finally after trying for 8 months because it seems that everything else seemed to be falling into place. But unexpectedly, my older sister became pregnant instead. She wasn't even trying! She got her birth control taken out and literally... one month later she finds out shes pregnant! Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy for her, I just feel kind of sad at the same time. No one in my family knows I've been trying, I just wanted to surprise them when the time came, but now I almost feel selfish for continuing to try to have a baby because I don't want her to feel like I'm stealing her spotlight. She hasn't told our parents yet, and I don't want them to feel totally overwhelmed with not just one, but two new babies around the same time if I become pregnant. I'd feel completely selfish if I kept trying, even though I've been trying for months now. What do you guys think I should do? I want honest input and real advice. I just don't know what to do anymore.