Circumcised regret??

Question

Ok please don't be mean I'm gonna be honest with you and myself! I don't want a lecture or list of reasons not to circumcise because I already j know them! my sons almost 8 months and nothing went wrong but sometimes I feel guilty for getting him circumcised! To be REALLY REALLY honest and REAL here I feel like deep down I did it for cosmetic reasons because i really don't see any other reason to do it! that being said i feel like i did it for him too because I know men who say they hate it older and wish their parents did it for them as a baby! My brother HATES it. I hate the thought of my son being insecure as he's older! That's so horrible sounding I KNOW as I'm big on it's not your looks but who you are that matters and what I want to teach my kids! 
......ALSO I took my husbands word for it since he's the one with a penis and let him make the final decision.... but sometimes I feel like I did the wrong thing and I feel guilty about it! I know what's done is done and he's perfectly fine... I want another son one day and NOW I feel even more pressured into that decision since I would want my sons to be the same... but I don't want to do the wrong thing I'm honestly just torn I was torn about the decision my whole pregnancy and let my husband make it! I know I know it shouldn't matter I know this is controversial but I'm trying to be real it's a really tough decision for me anyone else struggle with it like me!???

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Don't stress (I know, easier said than done). Whether or not you decide to circumcise your second son will not make you any better or worse of a mother. They won't have identical wieners regardless. I too left it up to my husband, as he is the one with the penis, and he/we also decided to circumcise our son. Don't over think it. Like all things in mommy hood, there are always critics and there are always reasons to second guess your decisions. Your first son will be fine, and your second will be as well, regardless of his foreskin (or lack of it). You are a great mom for taking so much care and concern for your children. Don't beat yourself up.

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Well they can't have a mirror penis so there's that. One may be smaller than the other. Fatter. Longer. It goes on. And i highly doubt they are going to spend time and energy thinking 'my penis is different than Mikey's and that really sucks'. 'Why can't my penis be the same?! My mom did me wrong'.

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You will have many more parental decisions to come. Mourning lost foreskin and a decision that has already been made does NOTHING for you. Don't discuss it with your baby when he's older or let him know you second-guessed it, because that will only trickle into him second-guessing how he feels about his own body. His penis is his penis, in its current state. Focus on what you have control over - now and in the future - his daycare, how he learns words, how he spends his time ... SO MANY THINGS. What is done is done.

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Everyone in my family and my husbands weren't circumcised. They were never made fun of for it, or had a hard time romantically bc of it, or had any medical problems bc of it or even wished that they'd had it done. But I've known a lot of circumcised people with the same experience. Don't feel guilty. You did what you thought was best for your family. Just continue to teach your son to be ok with himself as is. He's circumcised and that's ok!

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I was against circumcision at first (at least, I was against putting him through the pain of the procedure). There wasn't a medical need for it, it was only cosmetic. Every one I talked to that gave me pro-advice, only had cosmetic reasons. I know one gentleman friend that wasn't circumcised, and when I asked him about it, he said he's never wished he was circumcised,  ever had a hard time over it, etc. My husband (and every guy I've been with) has been circumcised, so I didn't really have a point of reference. But my husband was very pro-circumcision. He said he was worried about my son's middle and high school experience, especially in locker rooms. I made so many decisions about the birth plan, that I let my husband have the circumcision decision.  I felt so awful putting him through the procedure, and the healing. But now that it's over, I'm glad it's done.

Circumcised regret??

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