You deleted it but I didn't want you to feel like you're an awful person for wanting to spend time with your husband! Those replies were way out of line and I was just about to post this response when you deleted it:

"Well, I don't think you're overreacting. We live in kind of a sketchy part of town and when my husband has to go out of town on business, it ALWAYS stresses me out. And it's his birthday....I don't understand how people think it's weird you want to spend it with him! He's your husband after all. Not your casual dating partner. Like, yeah, he should be able to do his own thing once in awhile, but YOU'RE his family now. My mom raised me that marriage means your new family comes first. That when I got married, my husband should come before her or my brothers, and I should come before his parents/siblings. Because once you're married, that's your main family. (Not that they're not important, but marriage takes work and time and so it needs to be your priority relationship.) Spending nights apart, especially if unnecessary, is hard on a marriage and you have every right to want to spend time with your husband. Your feelings are valid."