I have a 9 year old son and I ask him to help me clean up around the house and pick up his toys and such. today when I asked him to do it he said no and ran to his dad and said he's staying with him. I asked him again and he got up and pushed me and I asked his dad if he could help a little and he ignored me and so I asked my son to pick his toys up again and my husband said he didn't have to and that it's his day off and that I can clean the house by myself. I have no idea what to do. any tips?

my husband also told me I need to respect my son more