My daughter was a preemie, so she had some breathing issues when she was born. At 5 months her first cold turned into bronchiolitis, requiring a three day stay at our children's hospital. She was prescribed a nebulizer and an albuterol inhaler for future colds as needed. She has been sick a few times since then (she is 10 months now) and has recovered well with the treatments we have been given.

Last month, we babysat for my bro and sis in laws one year old overnight. Almost immediately we noticed he was coughing and wheezing. He was so miserable we actually had them come pick him up around 10 pm. I asked if he was sick and she said she noticed a cough but thought it was teething. A week later, she called to tell me she took him to the doctor and that he had croup. I had sanitized my house as best as possible after they had left that night, but of course my daughter came down with croup anyway.

This isn't the first time they have exposed my daughter to colds and viruses. I know life happens and that I cannot shield her from everything. But that said, they bring over their kids or invite us over and then we see the runny nose/cough and it is too late. If my husband, daughter or I are sick we always cancel plans because we don't want to spread germs knowingly.

Every time my daughter is sick I have to Spend thirty minutes a day treating her with the nebulizer while she screams her head off, crying myself while I bounce and try to sing her songs.

How can I ask my relatives to please show some sensitivity to my daughters condition? I find myself just saying no to plans with them rather than deal with this.