Does anyone else go through this with their mom? She's very passive aggressive and tells me that since she is my mom I have to listen to her more and respect her more than she respects me? I'll list some examples...

Ex 1: my sister in law let me know she was pregnant a couple of weeks ago (I'm pregnant too and my baby is due 2 months before hers). She asked that I don't share with anyone, and of course I keep my promises. Today my sis n law told my mom the great news, I called my mom with excitement and... well, my mom was upset with me... she was upset that I didn't tell her sooner. I told her why, and she doesn't care.

Ex 2: My mom expects me to call her daily, though she would never admit that. If I go one day without calling her, she is short and rude with me on the phone. She uses the guilt of "don't you care enough about me to call me everyday?"

I'm almost 20 weeks pregnant. I have been setting more and more boundaries with her, and she is just getting worse, like she is losing control. Literally last weekend she got upset with me for calling her in the afternoon instead of the morning because my husband and I were at the beach enjoying a day off.

So I've stopped calling her all the time, but still call her often. And we don't go see her as much as we used to (used to once a week, maybe now once a month or longer).

I have so much guilt and sadness but I don't think there is anything I can do other than accept who she is and live a very distant life from her. Any advice or personal stories of your own? Thanks in advance. Feeling really frustrated!