31w4d and my lady bits hate me!

Joei

Since about 25 weeks I've dealt with swollen, raw, itchy uncomfortable lady bits.... it's so painful. It's basically killed all sex for SO and I for weeks now.. it's so painful I've tried coconut oil to soothe it and types of medicated creams irritate it more... any advice?? It's not a yeast infection or UTI been tested for both.