Vagina...

So I will be going to the doctor soon because I haven't had a period in months. I am only 20 and TTC and have never been to the lady doctor. I'm super worried because I just let my vagina hair go natural. I don't wax, shave, or even trim it. My husband has his pubs the same. I wash myself daily, but I do just have a smell down there. I also get these big boil like things on the inside of my thighs. I pop them because they get filled with blood and puss, but after they pop they go away. My mom use to pin me down and pop them and she would dig into them so deep you could stick your finger into the hole she would dig into me. I now have big purple scars from it. So all in all my vagina is hairy, gross, and has a smell. I am so nervous for anyone else to see it... My husband isn't bugged by it because he just isn't, but I'm pretty sure others will be. Also, is it ok to request a female doctor???