Teaching your man to get you off

I've recently entered a new relationship, things have happened considerably fast but it feels right so we're just going with it. I have never had an orgasm with a man. Only ever reached it by myself, I've tried to allow my body to get there before faking it in the past but I end up getting so insanely frustrated because I can't get there then I dry up and get bored and I'm no longer in the mood to have sex anymore and it's just draining so I just started faking it and would use my vibrator when I got home. Now I live with my current partner and at first I was faking it again but I feel that he is the one and I didn't want to fake it for the rest of my life so I came clean and told him, he was pissed at me but I had to tell him so now during sex he is very eager to make me orgasm, he can spend an hour down there and I'm close but just not close enough and like I said I get bored and lose interest in the mood. I've been using my vibrator whilst he's been at work to control the frustration and I told him about it on the phone and he asked me to throw it away as it makes him feel useless if I need to use it so now I'm getting frustrated before I actually am frustrated because I know I struggle to stay in the moment 😩 what do I do??