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My boyfriend says that he doesn't want a baby right now. Now we don't use condoms or any kind of protection really. He just pulls out. He's always been kind of adamant about not having a baby before marriage. We did have a conversation about a month ago and he seemed like he was changing his mind but stuck with his original belief. Anyways we later found out that I was pregnant but had miscarried. After that he said that we should use condoms but then I had to see the doctor again and they said I may not be able to ever have kids. Then he asked me if he could cum in me or if we even had to use condoms. Like what?? I told him that they didn't say it was impossible for me to have kids but I don't know I just feel like this is weird. I can't read him when it comes to this. I feel like he wants it now but at the same time he's saying the opposite what do y'all think?

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It sounds to me like you're definitely not ready for babies. I'm not sure what kind of testing you had to determine that you can't have kids, but it's evident that you can conceive a child. Whether you can carry one to term is beyond my knowledge and possibly what they meant. It seems wrong that you'd not use protection. Even if he isn't using a condom, I think I'd speak up and either tell him to, or get on birth control. I've had a miscarriage before and it's not fun. It's difficult and I wouldn't risk that happening again as you do. Also, he clearly isn't ready for a child and doesn't quite seem mature enough for one. So on the off chance that you are able to have children and carry a baby to term, there's no guarantee he'd stick around for it. That's something I'd not want to risk either.

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Take control of your own fertility and get on birth control now.

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Until he full on says, "I want to have a baby with you." he doesn't want to have a baby. Him wanting to cum inside you is him being lazy. I've been told it'd be difficult to conceive children, and I became pregnant weeks later. You need to hear the words come out of his mouth before you decide to have a child with him.

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If you can't have an open and clear discussion about it, then I def wouldn't TTC.     For the most part, if you don't use any protection, it's more a matter of when and not if you get pregnant.  He needs to be clear with you with what he wants.  If he doesn't know, then use protection until he makes up his mind.

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Y'all need to have an open talk about the reality of your situation. He doesn't seem ready to have kids, so waiting is likely your better option.

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