Not sure which is worse.

My BF and I have been together for 4 years now. But lately I've been wondering how. He no longer tries to even please me or try to make me feel special in any way. It's either a quicky that doesn't even get me warmed up or it's oral (only for him). Yes I do Feel happy when I know I can please him but seriously. We go weeks without sex (not my doing) and then when we do have sex he only takes himself into consideration.

There's no effort what so ever anymore.