UPDATE: His time is almost up ladies

I'm 28 w/ a career in health care and my bf is 28 with the same. We met at work 3.5 years ago. He has a 6 yo daughter and we now have a baby of our own on the way. Our relationship isn't perfect but it's going well and the good definitely out weighs the bad. I love this man and have been faithful, loving, and caring to him and his daughter for almost 4 years.

The first 2 years of our relationship was very rough because he was having a lot of financial issues and it affected him and his behavior towards me. At one point he was evicted from his apartment and I was right there to help him. Shortly after that his car was repossessed and again, I was right there. I've been a great help with his daughter and we get along well. I've babysat for him many times when he's had to work and didn't have anyone else to keep her and I went out of my way to get her to adjust to me in the beginning.

My only question now is when is this man going to marry me!? He's talked about it for almost 2 years now and has said on numerous occasions how he wants to make me his wife "one day". He's told his mom, my mom, his coworkers etc how I'm going to be his wife and I've been patiently waiting for him to purpose and nothing...

I don't understand what's the hold up but I'm starting to think that he never will. I'm 4 months pregnant and I thought that me carrying his child would maybe put some fire under him (no I didn't intentionally get pregnant so he could marry me, we were both surprised and honestly at first I was upset because I wanted us to be married first but I got over it) but he's still dragging his feet. He doesn't talk about it as much to me anymore, he rarely brings up marriage or anything. I don't know what's changed. I know that he's scared but I would think that his love for me would out weigh his fear.

Well I refuse to wait on him forever. I have put him a on timeline (that he knows nothing about) and the clock is ticking. If he doesn't propose to me by the end of the year I'm going to end our relationship. It won't be easy but I know what I want and if that's not what he wants then I feel we should go our separate ways. I feel as though I have proven myself to be a great furtive wife to him over these last 3.5 years and if he can't see that then he needs to move along so another man can. I was there for him when he didn't have a pot to piss in and he's never had to question my loyalty or my love. What else could he want from me? I want a family, not a boyfriend & I thought he wanted the same but now I'm not sure. What are your thoughts ladies?

(btw we don't live together, I've always had my own place and he his, he stayed w/ me a few weeks after he was evicted but that's it)

UPDATE: So I flat out asked him tonight what is stopping us from taking our relationship to the next level.

Side bar to everyone that's responded saying I should talk to him, trust me I have. I don't badger him about it but I've brought it up a few times and the answer has always been "you know I'm going to marry you" or "of course we're going to get married one day". No real plans or idea of when, just eventually. I stopped bringing it up for a while but I readdressed it tonight.

His response was "well do you think we're ready to get married?"

I replied: yes, I mean I feel like you're never going to be 100% ready for something you can't really prepare or study for but I'm willing to jump in and give it my all and I think we would be fine. Do you not think we are?"

Him: "well I think there's still some issues that we need to handle"

Me: "such as?"

Him: "well I think that we have a lot of petty arguments that start from you having a attitude..."

So almost 4 years and he's not ready to marry because we have petty arguments from time to time 🙄 and they are all my fault mostly according to him...

I thought our ups outweighed our bad though neither of us are perfect. Seems like he's focused more on the bad though. Clock is still ticking...

Thanks for the advice