Advice Needed

My husband and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and married a year in October. We have had many ups an downs during those times. We have each said some hurtful things that we both regret and have moved past. But he continues to say such hurtful things. We got pregnant very early on with our beautiful baby boy. As our one year approaches I wonder if marrying him was the right idea.

Why? Because of the hurtful things he tells me on the daily. He calls me a cunt, bitch, slut, whore, he used to tell me I wanted dicks in and around my mouth, tells me his life is trashed because I'm in it (just said that tonight), tells me the devil is inside of me, told my dad the DAY OF OUR WEDDING HE DIDN'T WANT TO MARRY ME, said I'm a dumb fucking woman and so much more it would take forever to post. You get the idea. Don't think I haven't said my fair share of rude things either but the difference is, I have stopped. I've grown up!

When I ask him to do house work he usually tells me no or thinks I'm asking him to do something so serious and gets an attitude because it's a woman's job. I bust my butt to take care of the kids (he has a son from a previous relationship), make sure the house is cleaned, dinner is ready on time, and all house chores are done. Here is the kicker, I am 31 weeks pregnant with his daughter and he hasn't once in those 31 weeks asked how I was feeling, told me to sit down and relax or really even touched my stomach. He is the exact opposite asking why I can't do things like I used to. Hmm, I wonder why? 🤔 We had a miscarriage before getting pregnant with this one so I don't know if he is scared or what.

Every time I try to sit down and talk with him he always always always makes me feel so stupid with the stuff he says. He is very hurtful with what he says and I can never get a word in because he always goes in to defensive degrading mode so I walk away. And he continues to run his mouth. I guess my question is, how can we overcome this? I don't want to split up because I know how good the good times can be and I cannot share my two kids. We have also tried therapy but he just says that they are stupid because they don't know what they're talking about. Just not sure why his mood and attitude switched. Any HELPFUL advice is welcome. Thanks!