Family visiting after birth

I want my family and his family to visit after the baby is born but I don't want them there right away. I don't want people in the waiting room. Now I understand how they feel and that they want to be there, but they clearly don't respect my decision. My mother made it very clear after I told them I didn't want anyone around until after I had gotten rest that she didn't respect my decision. She flipped out on me, caused an argument and called me a b*tch. Now I don't even want her in the delivery room, and now I feel even more alone on this journey. I will not apologize for feeling the way that I do, or for making this decision. I also will not apologize just to make her "happy" i just wish she understood how I feel and instead of getting offended and taking it out on me and making me feel wrong for my decision she would stop acting like I'm the bad guy.