Feeling real unappreciated...

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It's been 2 years, 2 years since we started this all & have been through one roller coaster of a ride. & within those 2 years, he's left me twice. One of those times, I was @ work and had no idea what to expect but when I got home, he had taken all of his things. I was mortified. The second time, I was pretty upset but couldn't be too disappointed because it had been done before.

Well now, we're in an awkward place where we aren't necessarily together, but aren't single either.... I cook for him, clean up after him & allow him to sleep at my place... but in return, he goes out and stays out as late as he wants and feels as if he doesn't have to tell me because "we aren't together" right? lol.

I've been stupid enough to take him back all these times just for him to have broken up with me over some stupid crap. He says that we broke up because I say mean and hurtful things, when the worse I've said is that I don't feel like he treats me as if he's in love with me... and that's "mean and hurtful" ?

I feel as is he's wanting to not put a label on things because he still wants to feel that sense of freedom, all while still being able to get fed when hungry, have sex when he wants and have a relationship when he "feels like it."

I've taken him on several dates and spent about $100 a night on him, and he's failed to take me on any dates in a month or so , nor has he paid for anything around my place. Our normal 2x a week event included going to poker with our friends and drinking, but now he's so comfortable with just going alone and even if I do go, he makes it clear to everyone that we're not together and we're on separate tabs.

I'm just feeling like I'm getting taken for granted. I feel like he thinks I'll never leave him, but honestly not even feeling in love with him anymore. I use to want to be all over him and would get disappointed when he would go out... but honestly I'm just like whatever ... what do yall think?