My husband and I have been married almost 3 months now and we want to have children at some point. Though we are not TTC right now I do have a concern of how us being pregnant may effect my brother and sister-in-law. Here's the history- my brother will be married a year in October, and he and my SIL had a miscarriage in January followed by an ectopic pregnancy in May. The latter took an emotional toll on both of them (understandably) and my mother and I. Since the ectopic pregnancy, they have not been cleared to try again. Here's where my worry comes in- I feel like I would be an asshole if my husband and I would get pregnant before them. I feel like it would be insensitive of us, but at the same time if we're ready then we're ready. I guess I'm not sure if I'm overthinking the possibilities or if it would be rude or mean if we try and successfully get pregnant before they do. I don't want to run salt in their wounds but I also want to be able to start my family whenever were ready regardless of others. Am I selfish? Crazy? 🤷🏼‍♀️