how to not be so awkward/shy?

Question

my boyfriend introduced me to his friends. they’re nice and pretty fun..lol i have nothing against them at all. sometimes he brings me along with them to do stuff or sometimes they just come over to play video games. sometimes his friends ask why am i so quiet. And it’s not like purposely i guess, i just don’t know what to say sometimes. We went to a small get together at his friends and i wasn’t really talking to anyone, but no one was specifically talking to me, ya know? my boyfriend talked to me about it and he’s just like when i meet his family, they aren’t gonna like that i’m so quiet and think i’m weird and i don’t want that to be their first impression of me. If you talk to me first then i have no problem socializing, but as far as me starting it, that’s a no. any advice is helpful 😩

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Make an effort. I feel the same way when I'm in groups but it sounds like people are telling your bf that you're cold or stand offish. You def don't want that. Just think of something to say. Why does it have to be the other person that starts the conversation with you? That is a little high and mighty. It's like you aren't curious about them. There's literally hundreds of things you can ask -- how they know your bf, some embarrassing story they have of him, are they going to school, what are they studying, where they work, do they have a bf or gf there, you can talk about music, tv shows, whatever thing you love to do, it seriously just goes on and on. 
Definitely make an effort. It sounds like youre making everyone uncomfortable.

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It sounds like you have a little bit of social anxiety. What you can do on your own is just try to initiate some conversations, ask questions like what do you do for a living, what do you do for fun, things like that… and it's OK to be exactly who you are. Anyone who doesn't like you because of it, I'm afraid to say, they are just not your people. So, talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you have some anxiety in social situations and it's just a part of who you are. If he doesn't think that he'll be able to accept you as you are, or that his parents won't accept you as you are, then maybe this is not the right relationship for you. The people who love you should accept you for who you are. Don't let anyone change you unless you feel like you need to change. And if you do feel like you need to change, that is going to take place in your own time, not on anyone else's timeline. So, they love you or they leave you… And that's that.

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Sorry I don't have any advice but I can tell you your not alone I'm the same I don't do small talk esp with ppl I've just met I only speak to ppl if i have something to say

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I am exactly the same and it has caused problems in my relationship in the past and can still be a sore point. But sometimes when you are with a group of people who know each other they all talk about what they know like people or memories and it can be hard to have anything to say when you don't relate!
Just try your best and as you get to know them more you might become less quiet. Sorry I don't have any better advice. I could do with some too!

how to not be so awkward/shy?

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