Not sure how I feel

My husband and are in a rough patch right now. To be honest I don't think either of us are happy but we want to work through it. The past two times we have had sex he initiates it in bed he is asleep and wakes up and I am still awake reading and he starts it. But then he wants to do anal things and anal sex. I am trying to be open minded but it scares me and I keep telling him no and he keeps persisting and it turns me off. Well tonight he kept persisting and trying and I was trying to go along with it but it hurt and wasn't enjoyable. So he stopped but it's likes he either wants anal or no sex. He was great at first pleasing me and making sure I was happy and then it was like either we continue with anal or no sex. Idk what to do I told him feel like I have to apologize even tho it is my choice and I should feel ok with it. We ended up barely having sex and he went back to bed. I fell like I'm no longer enough unless we try this one thing. but if I say something it will just be worse.