My boyfriend has been quietly living separately from his wife (during their marriage) for several years. They didn't divorce, and even went to a family outing last year with the sons. While there, the wife found out he was actively talking to me. And the strings of church friends came pointing their hands at me, telling me how I broke their happy family. I don't understand, they lived separately and they agreed to divorce once their youngest reached 15 years old. He did last year, and that was supposed to be the last time family trip (it was 4days 3 night trip). She changed her mind (she said this to me), stating she is God's bride and would never let her husband go. Then she goes and tell her friends I had always been the trouble in their marriage. How could she go to church at least thrice a week, act pious and create all these?

They're legally divorced now (oh, messy court visits!) but she still doesn't want to admit it. She kept telling people how her husband love her and how valuable she is to him, he wouldn't want to lose her.

And she has her church friends bashing the people closetest to me. I can't really flash his divorce papers on everyone, right? But this bunch of churchgoers, or all the "well-meaning" people, why can't they just check their facts before producing sins out of their mouths?

Edit: both he and I do not know about who spreading those things. My family doesn't agree we are together because of we were together while they were still married. He tried to explain, but it fell on deaf ears. He doesn't want things to get ugly with wx, so not to further hurt his son.