I tried to get pregnant for longer than just want to admit. And I found out that I can't have children which took quite a lot of energy and time to accept and live with. However whenever people bring up me having children I kinda shut them down and say I won't be having children and if they ask I say I can't. Normally people are polite and leave it at that however lately there are a lot of them which try to coach me and educate me in ways to have kids or try to ask really deep questions as to why. I feel like I have to defend myself and I shouldnt. It's taken me a long time to accept what life has thrown at me and its starting to weigh on me when people act all 'poor you' and tell me about adoption and miracle sand all the other ways people have kids.