I don’t find sex important at all in a relationship

Might I add I’ve had bad experiences with sexual assault in the past and sometimes it is too painful for me to even have sex? My partner is the one who says no to sex when he knows it will hurt me, he says no. Because he knows it hurts me and he loves me more than sex to the point he doesn’t mind not having it for a while because it hurts. I’ve cried to him so many times after we attempted sex because we had to stop as I was in too much pain. He simply holds me and tells me it’s okay, it isn’t my fault. I am afraid he’ll go to someone else and that’s why I cry, he knows that. But he loves me, and has the same view as me on how important sex is in a relationship.